There are both good and bad things going on in almost everyone’s lives. The proof is there for either one you want to acknowledge, the question is, which one do you want to focus on?
While it is true that sometimes things just get borked regardless of how positive you are thinking or how you are working towards a happy life. For the most part though you really are in charge of what is going on, or at least how you choose to see it and react to it. There are many ways you can change how you are reacting to the things around you, but the one I want to talk to you about today is looking for the proof of what you want.
Look for proof of what you want in your life.
How this works is you make a conscious effort to notice the things in your life that you want more of. If you want more happiness, look for the proof that there is happiness in your life. This could be as simple as noticing someone made a joke, or you saw a funny comment online, someone smiling at you, you are getting your favorite cup of coffee, These are all signs of happiness in your life. There is actually a lot of little reason in each day to be happy, you just have to start noticing them.
If you want success pay attention to the ways you are having success every day.
It can be as simple as you made someone smile, you helped someone, you made awesome choices all day long, you got a long report done. You made it through the work day without punching anyone (hey for some people that is a huge success). We have a lot of success throughout the day that we simply do not think of. Success does not need to be big things but the small daily things you do.
I am not saying that looking for the proof is always easy or that it is just going to be an automatic thing you can turn on and everything will be butterflies and rainbows from here on out, I am simply saying that this is one way to get more of what you want.
Examples of this in action
Have you ever heard a friend talking about a specific car they want, and then suddenly you are seeing that type of car everywhere? That is how this works. Before, you probably did not notice that kind of car but once it has been brought to your attention, you will see it everywhere. This works with what you want more of too.
Let's say you have been wanting to go on a all chocolate cake diet. You go online and you find a lot of information that tells you this is a really bad idea, but there is also information out there that tells you it is a great idea. You found proof both for and against this diet but it is up to you which one you believe and want to follow.
Another example of this I have seen in play with many people is when they are in a relationship and not happy with their significant other. They have a list of all the things they do not like about the other person and these traits just keep showing up and grating on their nerves. But then they are asked to think about all the good things they love about that same significant other and just think about those for a while. Putting the attention on what they like (what they want) instantly changes their mind about the relationship that just moments before was horrible. They could find the proof that their relationship was horrible or great, then they simply had to decide which they wanted.
If you want to be in better shape but you keep lamenting about your stomach not being flat, if you have another area of your body that looks pretty good focus on that. Notice this part of you that is in shape as proof that you are getting in better and better shape and what you are doing is working.
What do you want?
What do you want more of in your life? Do you want to be healthier, Happier, calmer, more successful, more in love with your husband or wife? Now that you know what you want, change your focus to that thing. Look for proof that it is already here. The proof is out there for whatever you want. You simply have to decide what you want to put your attention on. Is your life a tragedy or a miracle? Which would you prefer? Put your attention on that.